Elizabeth Miles (@ikenceo) was one of my first contacts on Twitter back in the day, always warm and inviting. Our connection was through law and technology initially, however we rarely talked about either. Our conversations were always about children, Peppa Pig, learning, animation, the arts, the importance of creativity. A passionate lady with a large heart. I'm glad we met in real life a number of times at Tweet Ups and always had a great natter. It was through these conversations we struck upon her love of a rare piece of Disney animation by Salvador Dali that was in the depths of the Disney vaults and I too had seen snippets when I worked at Disney, it was great to find the piece for her, it's the only thing I was able to do for her.
Walt Disney y Salvador Dali - Destino HD from Ivan Wenger on Vimeo.
I'll miss Elizabeth, somebody so giving and open that I felt I knew her better; from our online chat and few real life meetings, than some people I have known for years. One last #FF video to say goodbye and here's hoping your warmth keeps shining down.
FF Sunshine from Jon Harman on Vimeo.
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Friday, April 26, 2013
Friday, April 12, 2013
Arthritic Stigmata
My historical disdain for education has amused me over the years,
particularly the irony of ending up working in legal education, if I could go
back in time to explain this to my 14 yr old self, he would stare at me in
slack jaw wonderment. Why? Because in my formative years I held a strong
distaste for both education and lawyers. I'll come to the lawyer bit in a
moment, but let's first zero in on the education bit.
Today I was diagnosed with degenerative arthritis in my my big toe, initially it made me feel old beyond my years and then I fixated on the injury that had led to this. My doctor explained that arthritis in someone as "young" as me was likely the result of a childhood injury, had I broken my big toe in childhood?
Bang! I was instantly taken back to the incident with 12 yr old me, we had been instructed by our teacher to move some antiquated school desks in our classroom. Believe it or not, in the mid eighties I was working on a wooden desk with an ink well from the Victorian era. As we moved the desks, somehow mine toppled over and landed on my toe.
Crack! What followed was excruciating pain, I remember crying in agony. My teacher then proceeded to taunt me about being in pain, deriding me in front of the class about not being able to handle it. I asked to see the nurse and he denied that of me and subsequently made me hop the 2 miles home after sitting for 3hrs in excruciating pain. Other old school friends have confirmed this memory today, along with a list of other atrocities (putting a metalwork ruler across a fellow students knuckles and then sitting on it), just so I know that I have not exaggerated this.
When my mother complained to the school about the teachers behaviour it was rigorously denied. That was the moment that I lost faith in education, the moment I realised it wasn't about learning. I just switched off and spent more time taunting teachers who seemed intent on constantly telling who and what I was. It's been at the back of my mind ever since and now I have a constant throbbing in my toe to remind me on a daily basis, an aggravation of sorts.
A short time later I had an after school job which was essentially a posher version of a paper round, I was a post boy for a small solicitors office.
I disliked them with a passion too. Until I worked in that
office, I never had any idea the level of contempt people could have for
another fellow human being. Rude, obnoxious and vile.
It was the first time I was hyper aware of the class divide,
I was Ronnie Corbett to John Cleese in that famous class sketch.They weren't
just rude to me, they were as bad to their clients, immensely patronising and
demeaning. The nail in the coffin was when one day I had been held up because
they hadn't signed some documents that had to be at the DX office within 10
minutes and it was a bike across town.
I sped along down the hill, slipped on the pedal, caught my foot in the wheel and went over the handlebars. Crack! Smashed my collarbone on the kerb and knocked myself out. I was rushed to hospital in an ambulance and came to as they wheeled me in.
When we got home there was a message on the answer machine
from the firm stating that they had heard I'd been in an accident and it was
imperative to know - did I get the post to the DX? No enquiry at all as to my
well being.
I was particularly proud of my mum's Tuckeresque tirade of
abuse in response the next day and I was fired with immediate effect.
Which was a shame as I still had the keys to their DX box, the only ones
apparently. I'm both slightly ashamed, but also proud of my 15 year old self at
depositing the keys off a bridge into the River Wensum. Another broken
bone, another dislike chalked up on the board.
So by the age of 15 I had a formative assessment of the
legal industry and education as two equal levels of Dante's Inferno that were
both seemingly underpinned by high levels of arrogant patronising attitudes.
So how on earth did I end up here?
This is the rather strange flip side to the coin. I realised
in my career that whilst I despised the machine of education, I loved
learning, it was a wondrous life affirming thing and I also discovered a
favourable leaning to copyright law and contract law in a geeky way.
I didn't realise I loved learning until I eventually scraped
my way to University and aligned my passions with an excellent learning
environment. We called my Uni - "a rubber roomed environment" -
meaning somewhere we tried, we failed and we practiced until we became skilled.
A course designed by a Disney imagineer who was years ahead of others in
education. As I studied broadcasting I became fascinated in the business side
which enveloped a vast array of commercial contracting and I discovered a great
book: Art
of the Deal by Dorothy Viljoen which opened my eyes to the beauty of
commercial law.
By the time I ended up in legal education I had overcome my initial dislike of law and education and found a new glimmer of inspiration, that said I saw a lot of echoes of my original dislikes around and thus have set about trying to disrupt and change where I can, I like the term my Oxford mentor gave me "positive deviant".
So as I sit here contemplating my aching toe and wondering if my collar bone will go the same way, I reflect on the bizarre nature of having this arthritic stigmata that spurns me on to change legal education wherever and however I can.
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Thursday, March 21, 2013
The Perfect Storm in Higher Education
The Global Higher Education Bubble:
In 2011 Peter Thiel, the co-founder of Paypal and widely
recognised as someone that predicted the web, equity and housing bubbles in the
US, announced that a new bubble had taken the place of housing; the higher
education bubble. “A true bubble is when something is overvalued and intensely
believed,” he said. “Education may be the only thing people still believe in in
the United States. To question education is really dangerous. It is the
absolute taboo. It’s like telling the world there’s no Santa Claus.”
Like the housing bubble, the education bubble is about security
and insurance against the future. Both whisper a seductive promise into the
ears of worried Americans: Do
this and you will be safe. The excesses of both were always excused
by a core national belief that no matter what happens in the world, these were
the best investments you could make. Housing prices would always go up, and you
will always make more money if you are college educated.
Like any good bubble, this belief– while rooted in truth– gets
pushed to unhealthy levels. Thiel talked about consumption masquerading as
investment during the housing bubble, as people would take out speculative
interest-only loans to get a bigger house with a pool and tell themselves they
were being frugal and saving for retirement. Similarly, the idea that attending
Harvard is all about learning? Yeah. No one pays a quarter of a million dollars
just to read Chaucer. The implicit promise is that you work hard to get there,
and then you are set for life. It can lead to an unhealthy sense of
entitlement. “It’s what you’ve been told all your life, and it’s how schools
rationalize a quarter of a million dollars in debt,” Thiel says.
Thiel’s theory was
further expanded upon in the book “The
Higher Education Bubble” by Glenn H. ReynoldsThis is pre-dominantly a US problem with HE economics being way out of kilter with the situation in the UK with its fee caps and mainly public HE model keeping the bubble in check as such. However, there is much debate around whether the marketization of higher education in the UK will ultimately lead us to similar issues here
Currently the impact of marketised education has only started to pinch at the traditional university model and many are struggling with a sense of direction to travel. Regardless, the issues that the US HE bubble has started to unearth and explore in its attempts to tackle the problem of rising costs and diminishing returns on investment within its model, has exposed a number of crucial issues about the methods of HE provision. Issues that students are now starting to be aware of:
This phenomena was explored in detail in the book Academically Adrift by Arum & Roksa that researched students on campus and came to a stark realisation that 45% of students "did not demonstrate any significant improvement in learning" during the first two years of college in the US.
New Business Models, New Pedagogies:
For the last 20
years educational research and theory has progressed at great pace, along with
deeper understanding of brain science and its role in learning through
neuroscience and we know that the systems of University education have not
evolved with this development.
Couple this with the increasing needs of
business to have higher levels of skills and knowledge development and
employees with higher learning capabilities are we seeing a perfect storm forming?
By 2025, the
global demand for higher education will double to ~200m per year, mostly from
emerging economies (NAFSA 2010)
It is
perceived that with the global demand increasing and the pressures on the
economic models of university mixed with pedagogies that are not delivering,
there is a mammoth mountain for Universities to climb to change shift.
Gibbs and
Coffey (2004) highlighted the need to increase tutor capability and
understanding of teaching and learning models and further covered in Teaching as a Design Science by Diane Laurillard.
To meet the future requirements of learning; the approaches to learning models
needs to step from the theory to the practical and with the increased numbers
of students needing to be taught within an economic framework that does not
create a HE cost bubble the traditional delivery methods and ratio of 1:25
(tutor to student) needs to change.
Technology Enhanced Learning-based pedagogic innovation must support
students at a better than 1:25 staff-student ratio
Universities
will need to understand the pedagogical benefits and teacher time costs of
online HE. Know what are and how to use the new digital pedagogies that will
address the 1:25 student support conundrum. However, who will innovate, test,
and build what works at scale online, with technology and blended approaches?
Can each university attempt to tackle this problem individually?
A higher proportion of fixed
costs and scaling up improve the per-student
preparation costs but
scaling up will never improve the per-student support costs unless we come up with some clever
pedagogical patterns and learning designs that support at better than the 1:25
ratio.
Enter the MOOC:
Large scale online learning has
emerged in the form of MOOCs with implicit endorsement by the world’s most
elite universities. Coverage of the ‘massive open online courses’
phenomenon was ubiquitous in the specialist HE press and blogs, and it spilled
over into the quality mainstream media. In one
year, MOOCs travelled the cultural cycle of hype, saturation, backlash, and
backlash-to-the-backlash. The landscape is broadening out from the initial
three platform providers (Coursera, Udacity, edX) and further addresses a core
issue identified earlier: the long term process of integrating MOOC completion
certificates into formal university credit.
That
process is a game-changer in terms of what ostensibly drives MOOCs. Can it
still be
about
widening access when the most important developments suggest it is part of the
search by
universities for new business models and competitive positioning?
In “Would
you credit that? The trajectory of the MOOCs juggernaut” (2013) The Observatory for Borderless
Education analyse existing business models that are emerging from the
collaboration between Universities and MOOC platform providers, illustrating a
shifting pattern that is consolidating around the ideas of University brand
coupled with outside in services of MOOC platforms delivering the taught
material and learning technology along with publishers like Pearson providing
assessment solutions for mass credit.
However, it is highly likely that this is phase 1.0 and MOOCs 2.0 will
emerge with better pedagogic and economic models and to disregard their
importance in the perfect storm of Higher Education strategy would be a
mistake.
They have opened the eyes of those that preside over the traditional
model of University and made them realise that learning and student services
can and are being decoupled from time and place constraints along with a
plethora of different approaches to learning coming from the learning theory
camp. None of them want to be caught napping as the disruptive forces enter the
education sphere in the way that those presiding over the music, publishing and
entertainment industries did.
Learning Design, Models and Scalability:
The great
struggle for any University faculty is how to effectively design and model a
course or curriculum for effectiveness, efficiency and scalability.
Learning
design refers to a range of activities associated with better describing, understanding,
supporting and guiding pedagogic design practices and processes. It is,
therefore, about supporting tutors in managing and responding to new
perspectives, pedagogies, and work practices resulting, to a greater or lesser
extent, from new uses of technology to support teaching and learning.
Learning
design aims to enable reflection, refinement, change and communication by
focusing on forms of representation, notation and documentation. This can:
- make
the structures of intended teaching and learning – the pedagogy – more
visible and explicit thereby promoting understanding and reflection
· serve
as a description or template, which can be adaptable or reused by another tutor
to suit his/her own context
· add
value to the building of shared understandings and communication between those
involved in the design and teaching process
Learning
design can take place at a number of levels: from the creation of a specific
learning activity, through the sequencing and linking of activities and
resource, to the broad curriculum and programme levels. Conceptually, there is
a growing appreciation, borne out by research at The Open University and
elsewhere, that learning design has an important role throughout the teaching
and learning process; from design and production, through the delivery of
learning and sharing designs with students, to evaluation and sharing practice.
The term
learning design can refer to:
- the
process of planning, structuring
and sequencing learning activities,
- the
product of the design process –
the documentation, representation(s), plan, or structure) created either during
the design phase or later.
While some
people prefer to use other terms, such as ‘educational design’, ‘instructional
design’ or ‘curriculum/course design’, all the terms tend to focus on the
importance of ‘design’. This is regarded as a good term around which to reclaim
scholarship of teaching and rethink pedagogy for a digital age and in the new
information economy (Beetham and Sharpe, 2007).
A learning
design approach to course development then enables what is referred to as
Curriculum Business Modelling as pioneered by JISC and the OU. The Curriculum
Business Modelling approach allows for:
- Course
development practices are able to become more transparent.
- Course development teams are able to consult CBM
exemplars when considering new curriculum developments.
- Course Development Teams are able to develop better
articulated, more adventurous and more cost effective course/remake
proposals, drawing on exemplar best practice.
- Course teams are able to start early course planning
by articulating key characteristics of the student learning journey and
outcomes and the overall architecture of a course rather than the content
or detailed components.
- Course teams are able to make greater use of more
open course architectures and adopt more flexible and agile approaches to
course development including more use of ‘found’ (vs. ‘bespoke’) materials.
- As course teams work they are able to monitor the
pedagogic profile and student workload and check out and play with a ‘good
enough’ financial model.
- When courses are reviewed after the first
presentation, and at subsequent points, a series of ‘at a glance’ reports
enables important features to be explored and clearer decisions made on
sound evidence.
The CBM Framework devised by JISC/OU project Learning Design Initiative
sets out a model comprising of 4 key views to describe and analyse courses.
The Curriculum
Business Modelling approach to course development compliments a more detailed
learning design approach that links in with an XML based learning media
production approach, when synchronised correctly an institution can apply more
lean and agile approaches to course development within a clear system.
With this approach
an institution can prepare the ground for the emergence of Learning Analytics to
further its transparent view of learning effectiveness, along with assisting in
the scalability issue of 1:25 ratio of support.
Learning Analytics is an emergent field of research that aspires to use data analysis to
inform decisions made on every tier of the educational system. Whereas analysts
in
business use consumer-related data to target potential customers and
thus personalize advertising, learning analytics leverages student-related data
to build better pedagogies, target at-risk student populations, and to assess
whether programs designed to improve retention have been effective and should
be sustained. For educators and researchers, learning analytics has been
crucial to gaining insights about student interaction with online texts and
courseware. Students are also benefitting from the deliverables of learning analytics,
through the development of mobile software and online platforms that use
student-specific data to tailor support systems that suit their learning needs.
One of the most promising payoffs of this data is its potential to inform the
design of instructional software and adaptive learning environments that respond to a
student’s progress in real-time, fostering more engagement in course material.
So are Universities going to be able to absorb all of this, ensure they
have the people and resource capabilities to deliver it? The answer is likely no in many cases, many
are left scratching their heads because their specialism is actually academic
research rather than teaching and learning, let alone learning media and
learning technology. This is why we are seeing a mix of publishers and
educational start-ups moving into this space. Companies like Coursera, Knewton
and Wireless Generation to name a few are taking the learning platform space,
but there are wider opportunities.
Outside-In Services:
For-profit institutions were the first to recognize the adult learner
market opportunity, developing and marketing online programs designed
specifically for working adults who had previously ruled out the possibility of
a post-secondary degree. Apollo’s University of Phoenix and several other
for-profit institutions blazed a trail in online, post-secondary education.
Today, Apollo single-handedly enrols more students in the U.S. than the ten
largest non-profits institutions combined. However, student recruitment
practices and evaluation of educational provision from the likes of University
of Phoenix resulted in Senate hearings and a damning Senate report causing
reputational damage of such institutions.
The
non-profit sector had taken notice though of the numbers and sought to steal a
march on this market section using their brand reputation for a quality mark.
They knew that they could not scale internally to meet this demand so they
partnered with specialist enablers providing outside-in services that offer a
whole value-chain of blueprints and processes such as: course development, IT
support, recruiting/ marketing, processes and cycle times. These strategies are
quite different from the traditional non-profit strategies.
The key
enablers are:
They all
follow a similar model that predominantly focuses on enabling online education,
though the model is not restricted to it.
The expansion of these type of enablers has
mainly been a US phenomenon due to the high costs of US HE and the pressures it
has faced. These pressures are coming to the UK HE market, as highlighted in
the OU report Innovating Pedagogy 2012 “the innovations are not independent, but fit
together into a new and disruptive form of education that transcends boundaries”
and few are thinking about future service provision in this space. At a recent
HE conference run by The Guardian it was admitted “When asked about what
improves prospects of promotion, academics answer first research, then
shouldering additional administrative responsibilities; teaching only comes in
third. This is inevitable given the current funding mechanisms.” Therefore is the UK
University model ready for the perfect storm that it faces? David Willetts wants
UK Universities ready for the challenge:
“Online learning is a game changer and we must take every
opportunity to invest in it; it’s a key means of expanding internationally and
I want to see successful universities operating in country after country.” Statement Here.
If tutors and
designers in faculties see their courses as unique creations
which re-make the field of enquiry each time they are taught they cannot
progress to the next step and achieve the scalability required to meet the
demands of the marketplace.
Their wider
universities will also have to question whether this process serves as an
effective and affordable teaching and learning methodology.
The question
is: Could we reduce the cost of such learning design and material
production by an order of magnitude? Are the endless creations of faculty tutors/
designers necessary for the eventual goal?
My personal
belief is that faculties within Universities will have to redefine their
approach or be priced out of existence. Only history, not argument, will show
whether this belief is well founded.
* 2 days after writing this post, IPPR research announced their paper An Avalanche is Coming which touches upon similar themes and more detailed research, it makes for interesting reading.
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Monday, January 28, 2013
Work Globally, Live Locally - Disruption
This morning I awoke to see more news on the phases on the HS2 train project and can't help thinking that by the time it is built, how we work will be very different and the need to commute to large urban settlements to sit at a desk in an office or cubicle will seem somewhat redundant.
The way we think about jobs, careers and the economics of these is where I see mass disruption occurring, breaking the shackles of the industrial age which are embedded in our management culture, our education system and our growth strategies. They're broken though, and we are trying to hang onto them in the same way HMV tried to cling to the high street.
The next generation are already wising up to how broken this system is, when are we going to....
More later on these trends.....
More later on these trends.....
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Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Work Globally, Live Locally - A New Beginning
For a while now I have been musing on an idea of "Work Globally, Live Locally" as a new model of living and approach to work, breaking free of big economic hubs of urbanisation and commuter pain. I'm still forming my manifesto, which may end up like Jerry Maguire's memo - but we'll see.
In the meantime, have a flick through PSFK's Future of Work Presentation, it will be one of the things that I base my thoughts on.
In the meantime, have a flick through PSFK's Future of Work Presentation, it will be one of the things that I base my thoughts on.
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Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Paper Bullies
There has been a lot of bullying behaviour on Twitter et al
recently and it made me think of a story from a New York Teacher:
A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and
gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece
of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but
do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at
how scarred and dirty it was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now
even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed
out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no
matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bully’s
another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. The
looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit
home.
Please take time to pause for thought when getting caught in
heated debate online or teach your children this valuable lesson.
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Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Retrospective Rationalising
Hmmm, there seems to be a new idiot zeitgeist surrounding the topic of rape at the moment, either to somehow build a straw man argument around abortion in the US or to defend Julian Assange in a bid to perpetuate what seems the most convoluted conspiracy theory I've heard in a while.
I'm not going to try and cover the facts of these recent cases as they have been covered expertly by countless others in far better posts.
I want to turn my attention to this phenomena of various people, predominantly men, trying to redefine rape. Why do they do this?
I'm hyper aware as a man myself I am potentially walking into a minefield here, but I think it is quite simple - no simply means no, before or during.
So why all these re-classifications by people? I think it is what I would call retrospective rationalising. What do I mean by this?
Put simply I am convinced many men in their past have been in a scenario that was either extremely borderline or was rape. This is probably quite hard for them to reconcile.
I think this is because of the fact that rape narratives for so long were of the violent stranger definition, therefore all other forms of non consensual sex don't or rather can't fit into the "legitimate rape" category because to do so would make countless men who do not consider themselves rapists to realise they have raped or nearly raped in their past, hence the post rationalisation we are seeing.
Bold and sweeping generalist statements I know, but let me explain my rationale.
I can already think of a handful of situations in my own formative years where I could have come quite close to crossing that boundary in a terrible mess of hormones, opportunity and drunkenness. I'm thankful I didn't but I do recognise the possibility of it amd that is scary. I think there are countless others who know this too, but won't admit it and won't recognise that it would be rape.
That's a sad indictment isn't it? That as men we have not had this conversation about where the boundaries are and what it means, recognising that our testosterone is a powerful driver that we have to control, particularly in adolescence or the discussion has been had and we didn't listen.
Thankfully I never had too much über testosterone flowing through my body and thus became deeply irritating in sexual encounters by asking multiple times for clarity on consent - if I could have had a contract I probably would have because in my brain it deeply concerned me about either being coercive or pushy in this arena as so many teenage men probably are.
I think I thought about it a lot because I had the unfortunate encounter of being in a public toilet and listening to a group of lads conspiring to gang rape my sister when she was 15. They didn't know I was her brother.
I don't think they realised they were conspiring to rape her either, just spike her drinks until she was unconscious later at a party and then all have "a go on her", they were deliberating which order they were going to do it when I intervened and pointed out I was her brother.
Sadly I have heard a number of similar discussions like this over the years, this I think is more common than most realise.
Too many men also think the predatory approach is all part of the game, there's an element to this approach that also starts to validate rape in their minds too.
I've been on the receiving end of predatory males persistence before, I've started politely to state that "I'm sorry, but I'm not gay" to still be lightly molested by grabbing and once having my exit blocked and locking of the door, I thought then I was going to be raped myself and that feeling of violation of your consent and your personal space is unforgettable. Sadly I think women have many more stories of incidents like this with men than I do.
So I think there are many things in the melting pot, there was a severe lack of discussion about rape being about non consensual sex and the different forms that takes and may still be. Too much emphasis on rape as a violent stranger assault narrative.
Not enough discussion or education with young men about respect and consent in sexual encounters.
So when I hear people re defining rape in the ways I've heard of late, I tend to think that they have a situation in their past which is consciously or subconsciously making them retrospectively rationalise the subject.
These are just thoughts and happy to hear your thoughts.
I'm not going to try and cover the facts of these recent cases as they have been covered expertly by countless others in far better posts.
I want to turn my attention to this phenomena of various people, predominantly men, trying to redefine rape. Why do they do this?
I'm hyper aware as a man myself I am potentially walking into a minefield here, but I think it is quite simple - no simply means no, before or during.
So why all these re-classifications by people? I think it is what I would call retrospective rationalising. What do I mean by this?
Put simply I am convinced many men in their past have been in a scenario that was either extremely borderline or was rape. This is probably quite hard for them to reconcile.
I think this is because of the fact that rape narratives for so long were of the violent stranger definition, therefore all other forms of non consensual sex don't or rather can't fit into the "legitimate rape" category because to do so would make countless men who do not consider themselves rapists to realise they have raped or nearly raped in their past, hence the post rationalisation we are seeing.
Bold and sweeping generalist statements I know, but let me explain my rationale.
I can already think of a handful of situations in my own formative years where I could have come quite close to crossing that boundary in a terrible mess of hormones, opportunity and drunkenness. I'm thankful I didn't but I do recognise the possibility of it amd that is scary. I think there are countless others who know this too, but won't admit it and won't recognise that it would be rape.
That's a sad indictment isn't it? That as men we have not had this conversation about where the boundaries are and what it means, recognising that our testosterone is a powerful driver that we have to control, particularly in adolescence or the discussion has been had and we didn't listen.
Thankfully I never had too much über testosterone flowing through my body and thus became deeply irritating in sexual encounters by asking multiple times for clarity on consent - if I could have had a contract I probably would have because in my brain it deeply concerned me about either being coercive or pushy in this arena as so many teenage men probably are.
I think I thought about it a lot because I had the unfortunate encounter of being in a public toilet and listening to a group of lads conspiring to gang rape my sister when she was 15. They didn't know I was her brother.
I don't think they realised they were conspiring to rape her either, just spike her drinks until she was unconscious later at a party and then all have "a go on her", they were deliberating which order they were going to do it when I intervened and pointed out I was her brother.
Sadly I have heard a number of similar discussions like this over the years, this I think is more common than most realise.
Too many men also think the predatory approach is all part of the game, there's an element to this approach that also starts to validate rape in their minds too.
I've been on the receiving end of predatory males persistence before, I've started politely to state that "I'm sorry, but I'm not gay" to still be lightly molested by grabbing and once having my exit blocked and locking of the door, I thought then I was going to be raped myself and that feeling of violation of your consent and your personal space is unforgettable. Sadly I think women have many more stories of incidents like this with men than I do.
So I think there are many things in the melting pot, there was a severe lack of discussion about rape being about non consensual sex and the different forms that takes and may still be. Too much emphasis on rape as a violent stranger assault narrative.
Not enough discussion or education with young men about respect and consent in sexual encounters.
So when I hear people re defining rape in the ways I've heard of late, I tend to think that they have a situation in their past which is consciously or subconsciously making them retrospectively rationalise the subject.
These are just thoughts and happy to hear your thoughts.
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